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Finding and holding on to relationships whilst depressed.
 
NorthernStar
Posted: 19 May 2012 09:34 PM   [ Ignore ]  
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I’m new to this site and I’m so glad I have found it. Anyway after years of single I have finally met someone who understands that my mental health isn’t always the way it should be. I have suffered from depression on and off since I was 18 (I am now 32) Everytime I get the motivation to seek help I end missing appointments and what not due to my inability to function. On somedays I can not leave my bed let alone brush my teeth or keep an appointment with a therapist.

However I suffer from low self esteem and become very clingy when I start falling for someone new, obviously this scares the men away and I usually end up alone (usually after around 6 weeks into the relationship). I fear that the men see my bad side before they have go to know me and realise I’m actually a good, kind supportive girlfriend.

This time I have met a man who is kind and considerate but he did admit I freaked him out with my insistence on labelling the relationship early on.  We’ve agreed to take things slowly and seek help for my troubles but I worry that his patience will run out. Afterall we both want to have a fun loving relationship but there are girls out there who can offer this with the side effects of my episodes to deal with. 

Do anybody else feel like this and what have you done to change your insure way of thinking and not managed to freak the hell out of a new partner.

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will
Posted: 19 May 2012 11:00 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]  
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Dear Northern Star, I just wanted to say that my partner suffers from depression and I absolutely love her to bits and would never want to be without her.  I couldn’t love her any more.  Her depression doesn’t and never has been an issue in our relationship other than I hate to think of someone I care for being unhappy but I accept it as part of her and we are very happy together.  Yes there are lots of other girls out there but he chose you.  There are lots of other boys out there too so you’re quits.  Try to enjoy it and not worry about it too much.  My partner used to worry about it but I think she feels secure enough now to know it’s not even an issue.  Take it easy Northern Star.  Will

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will
Posted: 30 May 2012 07:07 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]  
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Hello Northern Star, how are you?  Hoping no news is good news and that you’re doing ok. Best, Will

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