I am a hypnotherapist. I work for myself and for others. Sorry You come across as an entrepeneur. Perhaps not now then, you may be in the future. Your extremely decent caring and a joy to know. I love reading your posts your fresh and dynamic. You bring balance and restore harmony. The best actors and performers get scared. My friend does triathlons and he thought he was last he just never realised he was a lap ahead of everybody else. Thinking he was last he was actually competing to come a definite first. My perception of myself can be wrong. I get dreadful panic attacks sometimes yet when my husband talks to me he makes me realise what a successful person I have become with an extremely disfunctional family and against all the odds. I just keep throwing me at the world and have made some wonderful friends. Your clever and persistent like kaizen attitude is probably the root to your success. You just won’t realise until you have got there. You have a life time and there is no rush we’ll live till we are hundred Xx You sound a gentleman, Dale Carnegie might describe you as a class act and your success is in the person you are. You are rich in your own wealth of wisdom and self discipline, wish i was as wealthy as you when it comes to it. The best advice i ever had was to follow my heart. I guess it meant following my instincts my fate. You must do what makes you happy Xx HUGS XX

Hows it going? Are you having a nice weekend? What kind of things do you treat with hynotherapy? Did you get into hypnotherapy before or after your depression? I guessed you must be into helping people in some way cos just by seeing how much time and effort you spend on talking to people on here, I knew you cared about helping people. They do say that people who have been through hard times themselves have a strongly sense of empathy and they can feel other peoples pain more, and it plays on them and makes them want to help. That clearly seems to fit with you (that’s a compliment by the way, even though it may not seem like an obvious one!).

Don’t say sorry for saying you thought I was an entrepreneur, it’s actually me who is sorry that you weren’t right, I wish you were right! Like you said, maybe some day (positive thinking eh!!). I’ve got ideas, it’s just figuring out whether they can work, how they can work, and if I can figure that out, then I have to decide whether it’s worth all the trouble that I’m sure would come with it. It’s important to have dreams though, isn’t it?

Well, I hope you are well and enjoying your weekend.

You could not get more spot on yes yes yes Xx we have just got from horse riding xx had a wonderful weekend need to go and sort out the goats coming back on in a minute if my AO hell doesn’t crash on me again Xx it’s thanks to you i get out more so i guess it’s not entire altruistic i come on here Xx but yes you could never have got closer to the truth empathy kills me and I need to fix em Xx

Hello Chloe, hows it going this week? Busy? Are your animals doing OK? I’m not talking about your husband or anything here!

You seem to be having a lot of trouble with your PC recently. Don’t you just hate computers? I do!

Hynotherapy is an interesting thing. Being able to kinda control the mind, cos the mind is such a powerful thing and if you can control it correctly, it’s a great tool.

Yes Xxx it crashed !!!! it was horrid I was worried Kayfer and Hope would think I didn’t care about them and had abandoned my post. I went shopping today I had to get a friend a present for his birthday. I went to an outlet and only bought what I needed !!!! bit of a change in me I didn’t have the need to buy the shop !! i swear it is the I am enough having a strong influence over me. It was really bizarre I felt so different to shopping. I bought a book about depression a technical self help book full of professional comments. I thought I could read that and see if there was anything I could find in it for us girls Xx
I love hypnotherapy, my friends my husband my daughter love me to hypnotise them they get so relaxed, I have had two people not wanting to come out !!! I had to threathen them they would not be able to be hypnotised again if they won’t come out ha ha Yes it is a very valuable tool and it works !!! sppokie XXX need to dash on a school run Xx thanks to you all i did another hour power walk this morning. Made up for the day now XXXHUGS XXXX

How are you? Really, your family are happy for you to hypnotise them? One of my sisters recently learnt how to hypnotise people as part of her course, and although she hypnotises her husband, I don’t fancy her hypnotising me. Don’t know why, I just don’t.

It’s good you got out for a walk again yesterday. We are having good weather to go out walking in, so make the most of it.

Have a good afternoon

Actually it did cause concern when my husband started to do some housework !!! he is a typical old fashion sort because he works very hard and long hours, when he comes home he is exhausted and my friends have said i am his slave, he wishes !!! Well i hypnotised him to sleep better which he did and become more relaxed about work. Well he did sleep and he was less stressed and he DID THE HOUSEWORK !!! anyway friends were convinced i had hypnotised him to help me around the house which i had not ha ha. I concluded if he wasn’t as stressed and wasn’t as tired he would help me and thats what the hypnosis proved ha ha. I tell my clients they have full control and can open their eyes at any point thats how i was taught. Nobody has ever done that because they enjoy the relaxation so much they don’t want it to stop. Honestly I get fed up with will you hypnotise me will you hypnotise me. You should let her have a go. I have a confession to make I power walked infront of the telly. Today I went with a friend, I get very anxious when i go out alone. Goodness knows why, but i do, because i have a mobile phone on me, I am very self conscious I guess. My husband said just get on the machine and do some walking infront of a movie so i did. I have to go now speak later Xx

Hows it going? You don’t need to be embarrassed about where you do your exercise/walking. I know a few people who like to do stuff in front of the TV cos they say it’s less boring. As for letting my sister hypnotise me, the best I can say is, I’ll think about it, but can’t ever see me letting her hypnotise me. She probably do something like you did to your husband and make me do things I don’t want to. only joking!! I can imagine a lot of people would ask to be hypnotised and that that would get annoying. Well, gotta go, sorry. Have a nice weekend

I did some exercise Xx that’s the main thing teeee heeee However it is nothing like walking on the outside. I go out with my friend now Thursday and friday morning. She works hard so I am getting her out to smell the flowers and keep her active and her mind full of happy chemicals. Xx

Hello Chloe, how are you? How was your weekend?

No, nothing can quite replace doing exercise, such as walking, outdoors can it. Must be all about nature. It’s funny how now-a-days companies make a fortune off people to allow them to mimick stuff that we do outside, inside (such as tennis on the Wii Fit etc). Shame people don’t do the real thing and go outside, but then I guess it’s all down to people being desperate for convenience and being able to do something instantly (how much does that feature in our lives now-a-days!?!), regardless of the weather too I guess. Doing things like that inside though just somehow feels different, a bit of a poor subsitution. Can’t quite figure out using running machines if the weather is nice. A run outside is sooo much better in every respect. Anyway, better get down off my soap box again.

Well, hope you are OK and have a nice week.

Our outside walks are wonderful the view of the countryside is like a mini heaven, the farmers set aside is full of beautiful sunflowers and its superb. yes where did it all go daft. I asked my husband would you like a wii for christmas and he said no, he would never use it and then i said oh i could have a wii fit and he said get yourself out in the fresh air haa haaa is it a male thing ha ha. Life is good. Hopefully my last two clients have given up smoking. Thats what i love the best about my job Xx How are you, how was your weekend ? your marathon is soon, is it the London marathon, no it can’t be can it ??? i was in london the last one.  Wish i could run but my hip and knees hurt too much Xx I do envie you your fitness, I need to improve on mine. Thank you Brencoot for inspiring me to get out you trully have helped and I really appreciate it Xx

Hi Brencoot and Chloe

How are you both? Ive just been reading your posts about the great outdoors and couldnt agree more about how much better it is to run outside - as you know my hubby bought me a WII fit for my birthday and the jogging on it isnt much good at all, its just not the same and it makes me want to run outside, but Im also self conscious, I think I look funny when running, well ive been told that, my left leg seems to kick outwards slightly and Im sure I look daft, thats the only thing putting me off, im sure id run everyday if there was noone to see me, its so silly. I just cant seem to run normally, its so annoying.

We used to have our friend lodge with us before little one was born and he loved fitness and going out for a run, so I used to join him and it was great, I didnt feel self conscious at all then, he used to motivate me, wish he still lived with us - he’s a lovely guy. Perhaps I need a running friend but my two friends I have here are not in the least bit interested in fitness so im abit stuck there, my hubby cant go with me as we have little one now. I wonder if my new friend would go running with me? now theres a thought, I shall have to ask her on Thursday.

I did the Race for Life about 4 years ago and felt so good that id done it and my hubby really encouraged me and trained with me, I miss that now - working out together, but we have said we will do more fitness on the wii together when we get time.

I definitely need someone to work out with though, its not the same by myself, i need pushing quite a lot. I lose motivation so easily.

Wow you are amazing Xxx all that you have acheived in the past Xx Yes I get really conscious about running outside. When i did run and I lived in the city by the seaside i used to run in the morning at 5am so nobody could see me in the dark. I thought I could get away with it but there was a milk man, a paper boy lorries delivering food to shops. Every time I saw somebody I would stop. Then I spotted the paperboy running, then as soon as he saw me he stopped. then I thought I am not the only one to feel self conscious bless. I had this intention I could get fit in the dark and then run in the day light. Then one of the bosses in work spotted me one morning and said you can run with me. I hated it I just wanted to run on my own he was so fit so you are really brave kayfer you really are wonderful. I did run with my boss felt really embarrassed though yet it made me go. Later when i moved my friend made me go swimmimg in the morning. I used to lover that too, I was made up for the day. Kayfer you are a true inspiration and i do love you very much XXx I think that would be a wonderful idea to go running with your friend, you really are an inspiration. I need pushing thats why I asked a friend we all help eachother perhaps we could elect a MR MOTIVATOR ha ha shall we ask Brencoot to be our trainer Xx just a thought Xx

lol, - thanks Chloe youve made me smile here. Im glad I came on here as feel so depressed today, im on aright downer with myself, been for my counselling CBT thing and I just feel so hopeless and bloomin miserable, then I went to see my Life coach and made my first apt for this Friday so here’s hoping she can help me out of this black hole. Nothing seems to be going in what people are telling me, my mind has shut down which is frustrating, my memory is terrible. When will this end?

it came out in counselling today that it seems i could be stuck right back to when I was 12, like ive not moved on properly from that episode of my life, an awful lot of stuff went on back then where my mum left us for a week to be with another man, we didnt know where or when she’d be back, anyway she came back for me and we went to live with her new man (what a nightmare that was) he was an awful man, it was a horrid flat and my poor sisters stayed with their dad, about a month after moving in that place I got my first period so I mustve been all over the place emotionally and on top of all that I was desperately trying to fit in at school and wanting to be liked by everyone which wasnt happening, it was just a total nightmare, the bloke even hit my mum on a couple of occasions, I used to just go and stay with a friend it was that bad, I cant believe what ive been through I really cant, I cant believe ive survived it all - this depression thing I have now is ruining me and ive got to stop it, I need to go food shopping and i just havent got the energy or drive to go, my backs killing me, dont know why. Argggh im just a mess and need help so badly. my little one is back in hour and half so ive got to be happy for him, god knows what im cooking for tea, if it was just me Id probably have toast but i have to do something nutritious for little one, Im not neglecting him as well.

anyway im going to the drs tomorrow to get signed off work for two weeks, I arent going back next week im just not ready, the thought of it fills me with dread, id probably get there, make lots of mistakes, get upset and come home again then feel worse than ever - so id best be kind to myself and give myself more time, the pressure is awful, I just want to go to bed

sorry for this but im really feeling it right now and I cant seem to feel better today, on the positive though the horrid lean to is now gone forever, the back garden looks massive now until we get the extention built then it wont. Ah the pressure is building up, think ive got a headache coming on now, wish hubby was here.

Hello Kayfer and Chloe, how are you both today? I could try to be your motivator, but I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t like it. I’m way way way too strict with myself with things, particularly exercise and eventually, when I get to know people (like with family and close friends) I get a bit too strict with others too. It’s one of my bad sides!! It’s even worse if someone actually exercises with me or disturbs me while exercising, but I think that’s cos with the adrenaline and testostorone flowing etc….it’s just not pretty!!! Not good to be around! Therefore I nearly always exercise alone (cycle with friends though), and leave others to their own devices, it’s best for all concerned. My wife would certainly agree with me!

Now, get out there and do some exercise!!!!!!