Happy New Year Brencoot.  Your poor wife having to work on Christmas Day and your poor friend losing his relationship at this time of year.  It’s nice to associate celebrated events on the calendar with nice things but they can be so tainted when something bad happens one year at those times of year.  The event seems even worse than it would at other times as not only do people remember these events every year but they make us not feel like celebrating at a time of year when everyone else is and we feel we should be.

I hope that you had a good Christmas and New Year.  I’m not keen on New Year and make it my yearly ritual to spend it by the sea.  It took me 6 hours to achieve my goal this year but it was worth it.  I took the advice from Chloe’s post not to make New Year’s resolutions and just to enjoy ‘what is’ and think about what I want and where I’d like to be, without dwelling on how and trust my gut and instinct to guide me.  For the first time ever I haven’t made any resolutions and it feels quite liberating.  I’ll let you know next year how it went!  Wishing you a fantastic 2011 in which all your dreams come true and more.  Best wishes, Helen

Hello Chloe, how are you doing? Are you having a good festive season? I hope so.

I like some of your recent posts, quotes etc. I particularly like the “LIFE” thing, Learning It From Experience, cos that is a very accurate description of life. It seems that no matter how many times we are told thing, we only truly learn from doing things ourselves, making the mistakes ourselves etc.

A lot of what you were saying reminds me of something I’ve heard a few times and I think it’s in a Bon Jovi song too. I can’t remember it exactly, but I remember the final line cos it’s in the Bon Jovi song. It talks about people worrying about the past and the future and what they are doing now etc., but it ends by saying “Right now, you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be”, so basically we shouldn’t worry. A nice thought, if we can be positive enough to believe it.

Any news about the jobs yet? Any idea when you’ll hear about them. It’s interesting that you thought you were in the rat race, so decided to make changes and get out of it. It’s an admirable step, especially as so many people now-a-days are so focused on money etc that they’d never do that, even though being in the rat race and caring so much about money makes so many people unhappy.

I haven’t really been up to much this Christmas and New Year. I still can’t believe how fast time goes.

I hope 2011 will be a great happy healthy year for you and your family Chloe.

Take it easy

Hi everyone and Happy New Year.  I haven’t been on here for a while.  I have read a few posts to try to catch up.  Everyone seems to have a lot going on and have been up and down.  I’m glad there have been ups though.  I am finding this year difficult already.  This time of year is always hard as we have to start paying for the good time we’ve had or rather the kids have had and we’ve gone overboard again spoiling them when we can’t afford to but my job is looking shaky too as I’m sure a lot of people’s are right now.  I’m trying to take control and look for something else before it happens but given I lost my job this time last year and was so down, I’m really worried of it sending me back down there again. Anyway at least I’m aware of it and I feel I’ve got people here to turn to, I’m OK at the moment. I really just wanted to wish everyone a good 2011 and not to moan so that’s it for now.  Let’s try to make it a good one everyone.  Will

Chloe, Happy New Year to you.  I see you’ve been very busy and had lots to deal with.  You sound OK at the moment though.  Are you? 
I’ve been reading your inspirational quotes and feel better already.  You are a clever lady.  Thx.  Will.

I am glad you like the quotes I thought if I put them on everyone could enjoy them THANK YOU Sorry to hear about your job. I am on job seekers at the moment looking for a permanent position not knowing what the future is can be scarie. Yet I believe life can only get lovelier. You say I am clever yet I have to be honest a friend gave me most and all my ideas I just apply them….he is really the clever one and when I attempt to explain it to him, I don’t think he uunderstands what I am on about. I basically apply all his advice. Hope your enkoying today X Chloe

Abba - I have a dream

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream

I have a dream, a fantasy
To help me through reality
And my destination makes it worth the while
Pushing through the darkness still another mile
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream
I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream

[Instr]

I have a dream, a song to sing
To help me cope with anything
If you see the wonder of a fairy tale
You can take the future even if you fail
I believe in angels
Something good in everything I see
I believe in angels
When I know the time is right for me
I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream
I’ll cross the stream - I have a dream

Dear Will Xx your past became your present and your present will become past. I think of all the past that got me to my present and I pat myself on the back… all the heartache the hurt and realise if I had not had them I wouldn’t have moved on and I moved on to a better place. I look back and think things only got better and the pain produced progression….I overspent on my daughter too. I think oh lord why ??? and know I’ll do it time and time again ha ha ...I was saying to a friend I am going to put money away each week in a christmas club ha ha…I left my last job because of threat of closure and I retrained and got a degree and other qualifications. It was such fun…I have a WONDERFUL LIFe now such wonderful gorgeous friends I would never have met my wonderful Helen had I stayed at my last job teee hee ...have you watched deepak chopra the seven spiritual laws of success featuring olivia newton - john. The makers are portraying how our greatest losses are actually our biggest blessings. They might not see it at the time on a path towards experiencing life’s fullest potential. I am sending you an enormous hug Xx Chloe

Brencoot Xx yes ha ha I left my job and followed my dream ha ha still living it each and every day XX I now have my beautiful little daughter and that was my dream my happiness my life my little bundle of fun…I dared to take the plung and flew ....met all these amazing great people and grew I found new friends and a wonderful new life. It was necessary for me at the time to go and swim in another pool because I was going around in circles and not getting me anywhere oh I was soooooooo miserable. Life is out there teeee heeee time to go swimming in another pool ummmm perhaps somewhere more hot or a better culture ummmmm Xx There are lots of ponds to choose from XhugX I never realised your wife worked Christmas day I read your post and never realised until Helen said ...gosh your both so STRONG ...you inspire meX I hope your friend feels better about his relationship soooooooo painful so very painful…....My break up hurt and now I am enjoying my independance I love it…so free ...I am such great friends with my ex’s I am blessed with their friendship because there was nothing to hate. I do hope he reaches the place where I am now ...I can still love somebody without being with them. It’s quite liberating not having to posses them and stops me obsessing over them and let it be…knowing that my destiny my future shall bring me to what is wherever I believe or not…whatever my life is it can be wonderful can’t it ? ...it’s on its way ....whoosh…day by day minute by minute ...I can wait ...I shall live till I am 100 and enjoy my time my moment and have beautiful memories to cherish. Luckily my daughter prevents the loneliness I felt when I was single before. What’s your new years resolution ? may I ask ? Chloe Xx

Helen Xx ha ha love your post xxxxx you loving what is Xxx loving the enough .....yes because whatever happens you’ll never be lonely. You’ll always always be beautiful beautiful bubbly loveabubble Helen so clever wise and true who can make lemonade when life gives you lemons..I do love you so very much Xx hug Xx I am glad you like my posts anything for you my beautiful friend Xxx Hears to 2010 your wonderful book launch Xx Chloe

Brencoot Xx your Bon Jovi song reminds me of the book a friend mentioned John Buchanan ‘This is the best of all possible worlds ’ Lost paradise…in Shakespear in love movie the friend of shakespear says it’s going to be alright I don’t know how but it is…life’s rich tapestry appreciating gain because of pain…Xx your very clever and very wise my friend X Chloe

Bon Jovi Lyrics - Welcome To Wherever You Are

Maybe we’re all different but we’re still the same
We all got the blood of Eden running through our veins
I know sometimes it’s hard for you to see
You’re caught between just who you are and who you want to be

If you feel alone and lost and need a friend
Remember every new beginning is some beginning’s end

Welcome to wherever you are
This is your life; you made it this far
Welcome, you got to believe
That right here, right now
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be
Welcome to wherever you are

When everybody’s in and you’re left out
And you feel you’re drowning in the shadow of a doubt
Everyone’s a miracle in their own way
Just listen to yourself, not what other people say

When it’s seems you’re lost, alone and feeling down
Remember everybody’s different; just take a look around

Welcome to wherever you are
This is your life; you made it this far
Welcome, you got to believe
Right here, right now
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be

Be who you want to be
Be who you are
Everyone’s a hero
Everyone’s a star

When you want to give up and your heart’s about to break
Remember that you’re perfect; God makes no mistakes

Welcome to wherever you are
This is your life; you made it this far
Welcome, you got to believe
Right here, right now
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be
And I say welcome…
I say welcome…
Welcome…

I made a new years resolution heading if anybody wanted to write a post with their resolution and see if we can manifest them into our futures our hopes our dreams and this time next year we can see how far we have come Just a thought Xx Here’s to all the baby steps that get me there ...there’s no rush ...Xx Chloe

“Wisdom is power to perceive the best ends to aim at the best means for reaching those ends. It is the power to perceive the right thing to do. The man who is wise enough to know the right thing to do; who is good enough to wish to do only the right thing; and who is able and strong enough to do only the right thing, is a truly great man. He will instantly become marked as a personality of power in any community and men will delight to do him honor.”

—Wallace Wattles…........

Beatles - Let It Be Lyrics

When I find myself in times of trouble
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be

And in my hour of darknes
She is standing right in front of me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be

LET IT BE, LET IT BE, LET IT BE, LET IT BE
WHISPER WORDS OF WISDOM, LET IT BE

And when the broken hearted peaple
living in the world agree
there will be an answer, let it be

for though they maybe parted
there is still a chance that they will see
there will be an answer, let it be

LET IT BE, LET IT BE…............
THERE WILL BE AN ANSWER, LET IT BE

And when the night is cloudy
there is still a light that shines on me
shine until tommorow, let it be

I wake up to the sound of music
Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be

Refrain

Beatles Let It Be

For your friend with the broken heart Xx