Hello all new to this site and not sure how to use it yet, i been suffering anxiety for last 6 years or maybe more without realising, im just searching and trying to find out about it and get advice, i think ive come to accept it and understand it a bit more now, before i had this i would never of imagined i would be on here, those that dont suffer this would never know what its like and the horrible symptoms that go with it, im 55 now but keep myself fit and do general exercise walking and my 2 lads keep me active with sports and taxying but it can also be very isolating and lonely if you allow it, thanks for reading take care, steve

Hello Steve Xx one of my friends has what you describe and she said she has learnt to live with it and manage it in her way. You come across as a very strong amazing person who is coping really well. I would love her to come on here and chat with you yet I worry she would be too shy. I shall be seeing her tonight so I shall mention you and ask her to empathise through me if thats ok. I am glad you are not allowing your illness to isolate you ....you have amazing strength ..amazing amazing you never gave up ...your wonderful. Your boys must be very very proud of you and how you manage to rise above it all for them Xx I hope you enjoy being on the forum and able to chat and empathise Xx Chloe

By the way, the world doesn’t need fixing.

Neither do you.

And dreaming for more, bigger, and zippier, doesn’t mean you can’t be happy today.

Tallyho,
  The Universe

My tut today reminded me of you Xx sometimes there is no way of fixing it and I SO ADMIRE YOU Steve for being strong and managing what you do…I visualise watching that last punch from the boxer in the rocky film hits the deck and then Sylvester Stallone goes ahhhh and floors his opponent ...Xx You floor that anxiety XXx your so strong Xx

Hi Chloe
Thankyou for reply, i dont mind your friend knowing, i know myself its not always easy to talk to people about it, but if we can help each other thats what its all about i dont take meds now and just trying to retrain myself to stop being negative because i never used to be, and try and find ways of chilling out and relaxation tc chloe
steve

Hi Chloe
Thankyou for reply, i dont mind your friend knowing, i know myself its not always easy to talk to people about it, but if we can help each other thats what its all about i dont take meds now and just trying to retrain myself to stop being negative because i never used to be, and try and find ways of chilling out and relaxation tc
steve

Steve Xx I spoke to my friend tonight she mentioned how difficult it has been for her in the past and how others have behave weiry of her anxiety. She said she copes really well with hers she knows deep down in hers wont ever be cured yet she has learnt to live with it and doesn’t give up being strong. I said I had said something similar to you so I was glad of that Xx how was your day ? I had a wonderful day today I really did I stuck a note on my friends door life is lovelier ..love you Xx she thinks I am a nutter Xx I love your idea of staying positive…I used to say life is about to get lovelier so I had something to look forward to, then I thought hey live in the moment ‘Life is lovelier’ ha ha Xx Have you any techniques you can share with us that help pull you through ? would love you to share them. My friend and I were saying exercise helps. However with my whip lash I have been a bit ropey this last week. Yet I managed a walk today, got those endorphins going. Hope your having a lovely evening Xx Chloe

hi chloe sorry to hear you had whiplash, but if you can exercise yes it has to help, we have quite a testing hill walk where i live that i use when i can, from my experience and what ive heard from anxiety coarses ive been on through my gp you have to challenge it and not allow it to win and takeover, which is much much easier said than done, and retrain our thoughts, but this site has some very good useful information, but i have found speaking to others with similar symptoms very helpfull, hope you had a nice day yourself chloe take care
steve

Hello Steve Xx my friend also mentioned something similar about letting the anxiety pass over her and stay still as she would feel the need to run off yet was very self conscious of what other people would think if they saw her. So she did run off. I must say when I get anxious I hate an audience or if I blush hey its horrid then I thought to myself actually its really endearing if somebody does get anxious so if I were to get anxious infront of people they would be kindly and why should I run and hide away and not go out. I was in fat face yesterday and asked the lady for the life is out there stickers so I can stick one next to my computer or front door because I like to hide away myself. I actually found others respect me more when I get out and get on. Then I found some wonderful friends which have made me happier socially interacting. Feel the fear and do it anyway….its a nerve racking experience yet nobody loves a coward. Its all about strength and coping with what is and loving what is and loving what is,  is about loving you knowing that you are enough. I am an anxious person and that anxious girl made lots of friends and had lots of fun and that anxiousness never made me a bore ha ha. YOU know your a tower of strength because you have to be because you get on ...hey and motivation for others ...we all need people like you to say I am not the only one Xx Chloe

Anxiety is not a crime
anxiety just bids its time
waiting there deep within
feel it come on
and give a weak grin
gotta go cut it short
my anxiety looming
might get caught
you watching me in the
middle of an attack
then you start treating me
different talk behind my back

Hey I am still the same person
again and again
its just my ticker
and the demon within
I might get that shortness of breath
Its passes quickly so patience
is what I request
Smile at me be warm not mention
what went on treat me the same
even if I am gone
its only my anxiety
its something in my head
yet boy it could ruin me
keep me in bed

I am not running now
I am coming out again
admire my strength
admire the strain
see me as funny
see me as a nut
make a warm joke of me
and wish me good luck
because this anxiety
it could ruin me
yet I wont let it take me
make me needy
I am stronger than that
get out of bed
stop those old demons racing through
my head
and when it just happens just passing through
make a warm joke of it
promise to be true XXxx

no more making me feel blue
I am so strong
yet I feel as if I am weak
I wish you could see me
not being so meek
I get out of bed
again and again
get on and do it
making new friends
Thank the lord that out there
there are people like you
people you can chat to
people who are true
They have the same condition
they know how you feel
have you got medication
do you take that pill

coming to realise that what
ever was said we all put it down
to those demons in our head Xx
our false thinking demons such evil that we believe
oh how they deceive
making a mock a joke out of me
No no they are my friends
they are making me laugh
they are calling me a nutcase
my anxiety will pass
laugh with me again and again
laugh with me I wont take offense

My beautiful friends making me
smile again and again
laughing with me making me see
I don’t want an once of pity
Because pity puts me back
again into that place
back into the world that
I can not dare face XX

Steve Xx I am a very anxious person when I was a young girl I would stammer when I spoke and my throat seize up I would avoid people in the street because I blushed so much and didn’t say alot. Now I over compensate with talking !!!! I let all my secrets out and talk for England when I am nervous. I can’t bear being in love because my anxiety reaches an all time peek ha ha Xx with the shakes ha ha. The above poem is about me, I wouldn’t for one minute want to own your thoughts yet I wrote the poem for you. I hope it makes you laugh sorry if it doesn’t rhymn Xx Chloe

When you want to encourage a greater sense of responsibility in others (and yourself), emphasize the anticipation of accomplishment, not the penalties for failure.

- Roger Crawford :0) Xx

Hi Chloe
thankyou for the poem i will take time and read it again, my concentration levels not the best sometimes it just dosnt sink in, i tend to avoid people when anxiety not to good and not able to hold conversation which is the opposite of me realy cus i normaly very sociable, hope you days been good,
take care
steve

Steve Xx I have had such a lovely day. I have been getting over my car crash and starting to get my confidence back. Anxiety is a dreadful thing. I hate it. I was thinking about it today and thought it takes alsorts to make a world and being you is part of that world Xx Chloe

There must be a bug in the system, because according to my records, you’ve never been told exactly how powerful you are.

Very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very to the ten zenbillion.

K?
  The Universe

Steve read this and thought of you Xx your amazing Xx hey

Hi Chloe
Sorry to hear you had car accident, must have been very traumatic i know someone who had whiplash and suffered with it, especialy if you got family to look after because you stil got to try get on with your life, thankyou for your support and encouragement, i dont get chance to talk to others with similar problems or symptoms nearby, hope you having good day chloe tc
steve