Why are mornings so impossible, I have such a total lack of motivation, if I can’t break this soon i’m going to be in so much trouble. I just want to take another handful of Tamazapan and sleep on.

I can’t face shaving - I look so disgusting but I don’t care - I need to somehow dig so deep to at least try and get going. Does anyone else find the mornings impossible - what do you do to get out of the hole?

Steve

I just don’t let it beat me 5 days a week. I refuse to let it. It’s not hard but it’s not easy either.  Just take one step. Snoopy xxx

i don’t know if this will help Steve as it’s months since the post, but it might help others. When I’m feeling down - I have recurring bouts of depression and have been on medication since I was diagnosed 13 years ago - mornings are the hardest. I wake up and wish I could just stay in bed, it’s my only comfortable space, I compare it to a rabbit’s burrow, where I can hide away. The day - I work full-time, and my daughter usually needs help with homework in the evening and more often than not I have to get something together for dinner, all the other things can usually wait - feels as overwhelming as attempting to climb Everest. I find it really helps me to literally focus on just one thing at a time. That is I’ll say to myself ‘I’m going to get out of bed’ then ‘I’m going to make a cup of tea’ ‘I’m going to have a shower’ and so on. At times I have to put chop things up into even smaller blocks, such as ‘I’m going to put the kettle on’ ‘I’m going to undress’. I compare it to cutting food up into little pieces that can be chewed easily, whereas if you try to eat a steak, say, all at one go it would choke you. I really hope my sharing will help someone out there. Depression is a filthy disease, I call it the black cloud which envelopes my head (Churchill called it ‘black dog’ but I have a real black dog and she is one of the lights of my life!)

Hello Moonfriend, that sounds very wise.  My sister-in-law is a deputy head and calls them TATTS or Tiny Achievable Tickable Tasks.  Sounds very teacher like doesn’t it.  I used to make a lists (still do actually) and feel like I was achieving something when I could tick them off.  It depended how depressed I was as to what was on my list.  Even making a cup of tea was on my list when I was very depressed.  I agree that it is important to make your goals achievable.  A sense of accomplishment helps in the mastery of this illness which at times makes people feel as if they have little control over it.  Your dog sounds wonderful.  Pets are great antidepressants.  A friend of mine who is depressed bought a dog thinking that it would help her depression but was too depressed to look after it and had to give it to another of our friends.  You don’t have to buy a dog.  There are lots of dog homes that would welcome company or friends who don’t have time to walk their K-9s and would welcome a break from their dog walking duties.  Thank you for sharing that Moonfriend.  Maybe you’d like to post that as one of the positive suggestions the site?  All the best to you Moonfriend, Helen

Wow moonfriend love your advice I am going to copy and past it on to getting up because it gets so many hits XX I think that is such excellent advice Xxchloe