this is my first time on this site,my first post,but not my first time being lost and not sure of what to do. my life has gone from being relatively ok,to being an absolute mess. im recently divorced,after a 6 year separation,which is actually a good thing,but the custody battles over the course of several years has drained me.so far ive won,i have custody of my child,but its a constant battle everyday to keep ahead of her mothers attempts at taking her. now i have a new baby with a new woman,and while my newest daughter is a joy in my life,her mother is difficult to deal with. im at risk of losing my job because of car issues,and im the only working in my household. on top of that,i and my family lost our home and had to move in with family,which is not working out well.financial issues are such that both my vehicle,and my new wife are at risk of repossession.and a list of other things i cant even begin to detail. this has been the worst year ive ever had,and ive had a few bad years. i keep considering giving up,maybe its best if i were gone. i dont know what to do….i have to sit here and put on a brave face for my kids,when i know that at any moment we could be homeless with no vehicles or money,and no way to live.i dont know what to do about any of this,and i dont know how to stop my feelings….

Hi
Things sound very difficult for you sorry to hear that. Well done for being brave and posting here I’ve really appreciated the support of others.

I can’t make the pain go away but I do care. Don’t give up things will get better. One of the things I learned from my stay in hospital earlier this year is that you can get through difficult situations it’s the fear that drives anxiety.

Your kids need you sounds as if you love them very much try to hold onto that….

I’m thinking of you

Ali

Dear Deucalian, goodness that is a lot to be dealing with.  Are you getting any support in the way of talking therapy, friends, medication?
All those battles must indeed have been and be draining.  You need to try to look after yourself if you can too.  I’m not sure how old your children are or where you live but if you feel like getting out with them, there is a lot you can do that doesn’t have to cost money; museums are free, feeding the ducks, playing rounders/cricket in the park.  That will get you out and outside and hopefully feeling better too even if it’s the last thing you really feel like doing right now.  The negative physical spiral must be hard not to follow mentally but I really do believe that distraction and recharging our own batteries and trying to imagine what we want to happen rather than what we don’t can reallly have an impact on us and what happens. 
One thing we are guaranteed in this life is change and I hope your situation changes for the better very soon. My father used to drive me mad when I was ill with the saying, ‘You never know what’s round the corner’.  I didn’t want to go round any more corners and face any more rubbish.  I could just about cope with the rubbish I had where I was.  He was right though.  I hardly dare say it to you as I know how it used to make me feel at the wrong time but hang on in there.  You sound like a great man and a great dad.  Good things do come to good people.  Sometimes they don’t seem to come soon enough but they will.  A friend of mine says that once you let go of stressing about and fighting something and let it go/be, it will go and be a lot better. 
Thinking about you.  Best wishes, Helen