If someone wants “A” to happen, yet they prepare for “B,” they will always get “B.”

Prepare for “A” -
  The Universe

Mikes tut for the day
ummmm yes now I do believe in this yet I needed patience Xx Chloe

Jamie Xx I put my daughter to bed then fell asleep sorry I didn’t answer your post…..yes it is spookie ...I never put a spell on anybody just it appears when somebody has done something dreadful to me they have something awful happen to them…..its just a coincidence though. My friends would call me a witch..I would never wish anybody any harm…I did with my bosses shop which burnt to the ground yet after that my life turned dreadful ...thats why I really believe in being good I really believe in karma…my grandmother used to tell me about karma when I was a child and I would never believe her. Her family were very poor she was one of 19 children and she would sing for money and her brothers would beg for the dock workers sandwiches outside the portsmouth dockyard. Some of those children went on to become millionaires owning night clubs snooker halls and the first ever motorbike shops. She was the sweetest kindest person I knew and I now understand why she took in tramps and fed them. Yes sooooooooo I think its karma..anyway keeps me good and god pays debts without money ...its even in the bible…so I am told. I asked one of the christian woman to explain it to me. I liked the christians yet I didn’t like them bossing me about and telling me what I should and shouldn’t do. Hypnosis is frowned upon !!! that is scourcery. I laughed when you told me about your car…yes I would say that was the spooks. I never understand now what the spooks are up to yet later its like a jigsaw and I can see the whole picture. You said with your cookie you weren’t brave ..I think your the bravest person I know what you have been through go to work with your painted on smile and keep going through all that goes on in your head your amazingly strong Xx you did say what colour your car was and I forgot what colour is it ? I hope to paint my lounge today ...white hope to keep it fresh and I need to seal around the edge of the bath….last time I filled the bath and sat in it with a swimsuite and sealed it not sure it made any difference ha ha Xx speak later and I hope you have a great day XhugX stay being strong Xx strength can come from doing nothing Xx patience is strength Xx Chloe

Hope Xx sorry to hear about your troubles I hope you have a wonderful day Xx I plan to go spinning or swimming today how about you ? hugXxx Chloe

The way you are - Lighthouse family

You know there’s always something
Really worth the wait
I wouldn’t switch for nothing
There’s nothing worth the change
People always try to take you for a ride
It ain’t no big surprise
Ain’t no cause to cry
You know that you’ll get by
If you are strong in your own mind

You don’t have to change the way you are
I really don’t think you’re giving yourself a chance
I wish you could hear someone who says: “Baby, don’t change! Baby, don’t change!”
Do your own thing, you’re beautiful the way you are

In your search for something
You didn’t have to chase
You sacrified the best things
And nearly lost your way
People always try to take you for a ride
Ain’t no big surprise
Ain’t no cause to cry
You know that you’ll get by
If you’re strong in your own mind

You don’t have to change the way you are
I really don’t think you’re giving yourself a chance
I wish you could hear someone who says: “Baby, don’t change! Baby, don’t change!”
Do your own thing, you’re beautiful the way you are

You really don’t
You don’t have to change
Give yourself a chance

Jamie,
Glad you are feeling better. I understand how you feel towards those mean people. For years, I reacted to those difficult people with lot of anger and resentment, and they really got to me. Now, I feel that I am at a different stage of life, yes, I still dislike those mean & difficult people very much, but I have a lot more confidence to stand up for myself and show them “hey who do you think you are&don;‘t mess with me?! ” Try not to get too upset as those people cannot be helped and they are just too sad to be who they are! You sound like such a wonderful good hearted person, Jamie. We all want to please and be liked by the others. At the end of the day, if you feel like that you are not pleasing your number 1 customer - YOU, then forget about all those mean & heartless people, because they have no importance in your life. You are No 1 and you are the most important person to be pleased in this world. Thought to share my thoughts with you on this. We are beautiful people, and we stick together

Yes, I am enjoying the book, and can’t wait to read more this weekend.A good book is like good wine, it is addictive.

Counting down for the weekend as I get to spend time with my dog,my family, and most of all having some me time.

Take care, Jamie.

lol
Hope

Hi beautiful sis Chloe
Lovely to hear that you are in good spirit with the exercise, swimming etc. I can just picture it You go, Chloe. Enjoy life to its fullest!!! I am getting there. This week I seem to cry less and have a bit more smile on my face. Grief is a process, I guess, so I am taking it at my own pace and not too push myself too much. Try to take each day as it comes…

Been slack with my exercise laterly. Recently started eating less and healtheir as I have put on weight:0 I have asked some help from my partner and friends to see if we can start walking or running together, and the results are pretty positive. My partner is very supportive, and I ran with him during the week. My friend and I will also go walking together on the weekend. Throughout the week, I am a lot more active including taking the stairs rather than the lifts, eating less junk during the day etc… Hopefully the weight will come off gradually Let’s keep encouraging each other, yeah?

Good luck with finding something workwise. It is not easy, but I am sure that you will find something you like when the time is right.

Love you lots, sis, and thank you for your beautiful postings.

lol
Hope

Hope Xx weight is a daft old thing my girlfriends and I are all obsessed with our weight and what we attach to it ..some friends believe people don’t talk to them because they are fat. One of my clients said the other day the man looked at her face and thought nice face but look at the body….how can we tell what people are thinking body language says volumes apparently 90% of what people are thinking yeah right I have never got it right Xx ha ha Your words to Jamie were beautiful XxhugXx sorry to hear of your grief its what to say ...I know not what to say ..one of my friends is a grief counsellor and she would know or is it to listen not to say anything Xx I believe fully in time healing it does it changes perception it changes belief it changes personal pain heartache or weakens grief and it produces hindsight and gives us wisdom knowledge of who my friends are. I think the answer for me is to bounce to be like tigger and bounce back because if I don’t bounce I sink ...Hey I like the fact you are standing up to the meanies and the bullies. I found in the past when I stood corrected the person 9 times out of 10 gave me a lesson a favour a respect a wisdom a knowledge and I grew stronger and learnt. I believe its good to answer back and be heard because feedback is a wondrous thing Xx I hope to swim or spin tonight Xx hugs Xx Chloe

p.s love you Hope Xx

Hello Hope, how are you? I guess if you are reading a book about death and drief, then you must have had to deal with the death of a close one to you recently. I hope you are doing OK. I’m no expert (no one is really, certainly no one wants to be), but I often think there’s no quick way to deal with getting over the death of people close to you, I think you just have to try to accept that death is a part of life, it comes to everyone eventually, and that you have to just try to get on with your life and let time take away the sadness and empty space left when they pass on. I hope you are OK anyway.

Yep, it’s sometimes hard to get exercise into your day, isn’t it? It’s so important to make it part of your routine. I exercise 6 times a week (believe me, I often don’t want to do it!). It depends on the day and what exercise I’m doing, but usually I do it in the morning as soon as I get up before work. (NOTE: This is going to get very boring and in depth now, so be warned!!!!) I’ve read good things and bad things about that. I heard that if you do vigorous exercise in the morning, you run a greater risk of heart attack cos your heart goes from 100% resting (sleeping) to working hard very quickly (I read that even if we don’t exercise we are at the greatest risk of heart attack before about 10:30am cos of this difference in the work rate of your heart in the morning). However, if you exercise before breakfast, your body has to get used to using your fat reserves so you burn more fat. If you exercise after you’ve eaten, your body will burn that food first cos generally, bodies like to store fat so don’t burn it. On the weekends I generally exercise after breakfast though, cos I exercise for longer. I don’t have enough time for that before work.

I really think eating well is as important, if not more so, than exercise. The saying “you are what you eat” is so true. I’m really glad you have made a start with the running etc though, it shows you are putting the effort in.

Any plans for the weekend?

I hope you are feeling OK. Take it easy.

Hello Hope - thank you for your kind words. I think most people consider me to be a nice chap (but with a lot of baggage!). In fact someone once said that I was too good to be true. I am sure she was flattering me but in a way she may have been right. I am quite naive in a way and don’t know much about the cynical things in life. I am a hopeless romantic and am not ashamed to admit that. Even if it means I end up as some sad lonely chap living in a garret painting pictures of what might have been I don’t care because I would rather that than the lives some people live. I do love that book - I know the Russian bits are a bit hard going but stick with it. Good to hear from you. Jxx

Hi Chloe - it’s been an awful day today. You know I was supposed to go out with the Usher ladies tonight ?  Well it was canclled because my dear friend was so upset today because in the murder trial she was in the Pros played a 999 tape of the victims being stabbed to death whilst on the phone. My friend was so upset she had to get her husband to pick her up. I am so worriied about her.
Jxx

oh gosh that is sooooooooooooo dreadful yuck Xx hope your ok Xx

They love you.

Everyone.

I do too,
  The Universe

dee dee dee the spooks .....ahhhhhhhh Xxx

Hope and Jamie XxYesterday we took the kids on an adventure they had to find feathers and my friend and I ran with them through the fields to a beautiful oak tree. We found the most amazing mushrooms and looked at the dairy cows on a neighbouring farm. Then YOUR DOG (jamie) decided to jump in a BOG !! he was Mr Stink absolutely bog dog stinker hound !!! We bathed him when we got back he loved that and now he is soft and fluffy ha ha Xx I hope your both feeling better XxhugXx Chloe

One Day I’ll FLy Away - Randy Crawford

I make it alone
When love is gone
Still you made your mark
Here in my heart

One day I’ll fly away
Leave your love to yesterday
What more can your love do for me
When will love be through with me

I follow the night
Can’t stand the light
When will I begin
My life again

One Day I’ll fly away
Leave your love to yesterday
What more can your love do for me
When will love be through with me
Why live life from dream to dream
And dread the day that dreaming ends

One day I’ll fly away leave your love to yesterday
What more can your love do for me
When will love be through with me
Why live life from dream to dream
And dread the day that dreaming ends

One day i’ll fly away, fly away, fly away (repeat to fade