Good morning

dont be shocked but im going to tackle the housework from top to bottom then go shopping if enough time left before little one comes home at 5. Im not kidding you but it is a right tip, im sure I could get on How ‘untidy’ is your house programme if there was one, lol.

im going to have some vitality essence, ive had my breakfast and coffee so will be raring to go, although had a sleepless night with my baby but once ive done a couple of hours work im going to have the ripple thats in my kitchen cupboard, it has my name on lol.

then tomorrow im meeting up with a friend at the childrens centre, I shall enjoy it more knowing the chores have been done, oh no theres ironing too, well that can wait - its not priority.

So im going to get some good music playing and get on with it right now, i shall report back to let you know my progress, wish me luck

oh and my hair apt yesterday went well, im really pleased with my new cut and colour, just need to wear more make up as its made me look abit washed out, umm wonder if i should try my fake tan.

i am going - honest

Finally catching up with you all.

On so many different levels I can relate to each of you.

Brencoot
I totally agree about the training, exams and interviews that woman should go through before being a mother. I think its madness that it is something that basically any woman can do and quite scary as well. I am only 28 (actually 29 on Friday) and people think I amy change my mind. I don’t ever suspect so and besides my husband had the snip for me.

My husband came round to liking the forum when you started talking about a good diet being vital to health and wellbeing. He is always on at me about this. Years ago I used to work in hotles which meant that you never ate at meal times because that was when you were busiest and then when you did get to sit down and eat it was always the scraps of what these people left over, so usually I didn’t bother. My busband has to remind me sometimes to eat or if he asks when I last ate, I will have to stop and think. I know that I wouldn’t be so tired and lethargic all the time if I ate properly but I just have no appetite and there is no worries yet about me fading away lol. Hunger passes me by and then I just don’t bother or forget.

I need some of your discipline Brencoot. Part of my problem is a bad diet, no exercise, too much alcohol and no friends.

Does the ‘fighting back’ not tire you sometimes. I have had a few days now at work where I feel ok but I have to work hard at maintaining this contentment. It just takes one thing like a conversation with my sister, a bad word from my boss or an argument with my husband and then I just give up the will to fight, particularly because I don’t think life should be so god damned difficult.

Hi Chloe

Loved listening to your stories about boarding school. I did not board but I went to a convent school and was taught by nuns. We too used to give them hell lol. And like you at 15 I cam ehome to mummy and dayy with my nose pierced and my head shaved. They held me down and pulled the nose ring out with pliers.

I may not get to chat everyday but I am reading and listening to every word you all have to say.
Good to hear from you too Kayfer.

I still haven’t coloured my hair and I still haven’t had it cut, chicken !!!! I guess if you and hope can be brave enough to face the hairdresser so can I !!! I have just finished watching the celestine prophecy movie it was so cool reminded me of us guys. MY husband laughs at me, he said I have these beliefs and find books and films to back me up ‘so they must be true’ I got the aha bit though, the serendipity, the coincidences, the love, the energy stealers the energy givers. The nineth prophecy is for people to help eachother without ego with being controlling just sending love and healing energy and love and support are right up my street Xx teeee heee my type of stuff. My husband when he was single had a friend with a couple of kids. The house was untidy and a mess. My husband was really lonely and they used to let him crash the night on the settee. He used to lie on the settee and wish he had the same. He said he longed for somebody to mess up his house. After he told me that I felt better about the mess here. Then I looked at the lonely old lady down the road who cleans her windows every day, she has a really clean house and nobody go to see it. I had coffee with a friend last week she said how she went to a friends house and how it was a mess. I thought she was going to bitch about her, she said I love people whose houses are like that I feel comfortable about inviting them back here. I love it when I clean my house it gives me such a inner happiness. I love the feeling it gives me and I feel in control. I feel this inner worth. Yet sadly I cannot afford the time to keep my house as clean as I would like it to give me that inner confidence. My house gets really dirty and then when I clean it I get the inner cha ching in me. I find cleaning all the time takes up too much of my quality time with my friends. I bet you get the cha ching today XXx tell me what music you played, I love cleaning with the music on. It used to be girls aloud, lilly allen, the prodigy I have played them all to death now. I heard on Radio 2 years ago University counselling tells students to listen to music to help them through. Love the idea of the ripple, I now picture you as a hot sexy chocolate advert babe Xx love you lots Xxx speak soon Xx

Hey do you think Brencoot would be our milk tray man. You guys might be too young to remember the advert all because the lady loves milk tray. Actually Brencoot is the milk tray man teee heeeee XXXX

I would think any man would like to be known as the milk tray man. He was so soave and sexy lol

ummmm you remember him too Xx

Thats it I have just scared Brencoot off the forum forever Xx teee heee please forgive me Brencoot Xx

Hey what happened to those beautiful hell raising convent girls Xx shall we see if we can find them together and be ourselves again XX sis XXX Just watched the celestine prophecy film. I guess I let people steal my energy, I need some shields to reflect the negative comments and other peoples stuff Xx I am a chatter box I chat to hide my nervousness. People comment about it and I get put downs from time to time. I am now a hypnotherapist and I need the skill to talk talk talk, I need that skill and it works for me. My husband praises me saying I love that chatterbox, I love the way you chat away. Another boss I had said to me once when I was sat in the office crying because some one had made a snipe about me chatting which made me cry, she smiled and said ‘yes but a bloody interesting little chatterbox and winked. I like to hang out with people who make me happy make me laugh. I guess we are all pots of marmite love us or hate us. There are people I don’t like and I have friends and they make me belly laugh and I love being around them. They had me in stitches the other day. I have another friend who makes me laugh continuously because she is not perfect and does really funny things. She says to me ‘What ?’ as i roll about laughing she loves making me laugh, so its cool, my laughter makes her laugh with me, it’s magic that way we can laugh off the upset together, yet I can only do it with her. Yet her ex husband would call her stupid and be nasty. I guess after watching the prophecy movie there are drainers and there are gainers. As for bosses ah !!! yes there are good ones and there are bad. When I worked at a drug company the boss called us all in to see him. He said right I was asked by the big boss if I wanted to be liked. The big boss said If you want to be liked I can’t give you your 15K pay rise, if you don’t mind being disliked I can give you a promtion.It was his way of saying I am in it for the money the wife and kids and I don’t mean to be mean. I dated a guy once in the navy he was told off by his senior officer for being liked too much by the lower ranks. I guess its a boss thing Xx They have to be horrid to keep the person above them happy. I have come across some really lovely bosses though and I have come across some jumped up power drunk bullies. One bullying boss hung himself because nobody liked him, shocked all of us to the core. We used to hear him coming down the corridor and hide. Hope your boss is a nice one having a bad day Xx LOVE YOU HUG YOU XX

Come back Brencoot. Its all because the lady loves milk tray lol

That made me laugh really laugh XXXx god your funny Xxxx Brencoot please forgive me but your such a knight in shining armour cyber hunk Xx I couldn’t resist myself , Shame on me Xxx

Hello Chloe, Elaine and Kayfer, how are you all? I was a bit busy yesterday, so couldn’t get on here?

Chloe, you don’t strike me as the rebellious type with punk hair etc. Just shows you, you never know!! Never heard that about us craving what we are allergic to. Can’t say as that works with me with hayfever, but then maybe that’s different cos it’s not food. Does that mean all women are allergic to chocolate!!??!! Sorry had to make a chocolate comment!

Oh yeah, I remember the Milk Try adverts, and yeah, I can be your milk tray man. Suave and sexy are 2 words that are often used by people when describing me!!! I’ll tell my wife this tonight and see how long it takes her to stop crying with laughter!!

Kayfer, did you tackle all the house cleaning? Never a nice proposition, so if you did, I’ll be very impressed!

Elaine, as for the tests for people before they can have children, I think it needs to be for men and women, cos some of the things that men do to kids is unbelievable. Is it just me or when they show you photos on the news of people who have abused or neglected kids, don’t you always think they look like they would struggle in an IQ test against a carrot!?! I mean, do the News editors look for the worst photo of them that they can find or do they look like that in everyday life, cos if they look like in everyday life, they wouldn’t need to sit a test. If they just walked into the room, you could immediately cross them off the list for suitable parents! I think I’m being a bit too Hitler-like again! Sorry!

Well, I hope you are all well and enjoying the nice weather today (well it’s nice up here anyway).

That last email post wasn’t very nice, sorry. I shouldn’t say that about those people look like they have less brain cells than a carrot, but something happened around here recently (actually outside my friends house) that really annoyed me and the outcome of it all annoyed me even more, but I don’t have time to tell you all about it now.

No I get you xx the photos they post on AOL are they the ones after they have been arrested at the police station because yes because I carrot see they have any brain cells either. People that committ such atrocities to children should be chastised, gosh it makes me agry too. Brencoot I hear what you are saying Xx Would somebody with a brain do it ? it’s a way of rationalising obsenity xx Gets the anger out when I label such people. Yes I had a punk hair style and black lipstick, I thought I looked gorgeous. Bet your wife would definitely AGREE with us Xxx I bet Xx Bet you are sauve and sexy. My husband is Xxhis nickname is sexy XxThe weather here was gorgeous today so I did my power walk outside, getting into my routine, thanks for your encouragement. I have been reading spark and the doctor in the book reckons it cures all !!! my anxiety has improved ten fold. I was talking to my friend who is a GP and she said it works wonders, another friend who is a doctor said the same, exercise will give you energy, AMAZING STUFF XX. Thank you Brencoot you’ll never know how much you have helped me. My panic moments have improved and I shrug worry off better now. Plus Dr John J.Ratey and Eric Hagerman back it all up in their book, Spark. Exercise sparks new brain cell growth, it improves the way I am thinking and feeling and I feel so recharged. My mood definitely has lifted and I feel a new me Xx THANK YOU XX

Its my birthday today, but not much different than any other day.
My week was alright, neither up nor down so thats good. I am working now all day saturday and sunday as well, so I expect to feel pretty miserable at the start of next week after having worked about 70 hours. I am not looking sympathy, because I choose to do it but I only choose to do because I am a statistic that just can’t make ends meet.

Hope you all have a nice weekend and I will catch up with you at the start of next week.

xoxo

Oh my goodness, HAPPY BIRTHDAY ELAINE!!!  Can you unofficially postpone your Birthday until you have time to celebrate it?  If the Queen has 2 Birthdays I don’t see why you shouldn’t.  Even if you are working tomorrow and Sunday, are you and your husband having a nice meal and a glass of your favourite tipple to toast your Birthday?  I shall be toasting you with my G&T very shortly.  Birthdays are special but a Birthday is celebrating a whole year so you don’t have to do all your celebrating in an evening.  Make the most of it.  Drag it out over a week if you have to until you get to do it properly.  It sounds like you work really hard Elaine.  I hope that you get to ‘play’ too.  Even if that means a warm bubble bath at the end of your tough day or a neck massage from your husband(sorry to drag your husband into this!) or a few chocolates with your favourite glass of red wine, or reading your favourite book or a gossipy magazine or..or…or.  It all adds up subconsciously even if you don’t keep a mental tally.  Thinking of you Birthday Girl. Helen